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Are you a Loser or a Lobster?


Losing, often referred to as the opposite of winning (Thanks Captain Obvious!)

Also often associated and measured in sporting arenas.

But what about everyday life? Can you lose in the biggest arena of all, and if you do what happens?

Are you rediculed or asked to hold a media conference to explain your reasons for losing?

The short answer is no.

But the long answer is complicated.

"The moral of the story being, it's ok to lose, it's ok to fail and it's ok to feel discomfort, as long as you can learn from it and know that a new, better version of you is evolving!"

So let me attempt to explain a middle ground perspective on why being a loser or losing in life is an opportunity and in fact a real advantage through the story of a lobster.

If you didn't already know (like I did) lobsters shred their shells!

Without getting into the biological and marine analysis of why they do it, they simply do it because they are growing.

They basically out grow the current shell and therefore need a bigger shell to grow into.

Now if you're wondering how this connection relates to success, it's fairly simple.

Like a lobster we all grow, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

As we grow out of our current state, we need to evolve into our newer state. Now physically this is easy to compare, when you're 5 years old you are unlikely to fit your clothes or shoes when you're 20 years old, and if you do you will feel uncomfortable and struggle to move around, and it just won't work!

Similarly with success once you reach a certain level of success you must continue to keep pushing yourself, evolving and not standing still if you want to reap the benefits that come with success whether that be financially, emotionally or physically.

In other words if you maintain the status quo, its unlikely you will ever reap the benefits, and often as a result of remaining in the status quo you get analytical about everything around you, i.e. start looking at everyone and everything as a negative and a problem.

You'll complain more, you'll judge more, and generally be more unhappy!

Now back to the lobster story, the key learning I wanted to point out was, that the lobster had to go through some pains and some discomfort in order to get into the newer, bigger shell.

Like success, we often have to fail, lose, feel discomfort in order to grow and learn, to get to the next level of success.

The moral of the story being, it's ok to lose, it's ok to fail and it's ok to feel discomfort, as long as you can learn from it and know that a new, better version of you is evolving! Be the lobster and shred the old shell for the bigger, better shell!

Till next week,

Michael Basagre