Why your goals suck!
That's right you read the title correctly, "your goals suck!"
The truth is many of us including myself have either used goals as a "this is what I should do every year" or "I should probably set some goals" mentality.
Personally that approach doesn't work. It's a half-ass approach to something that could make a real impact on how you live, how you succeed and how you approach everyday.
"The most important benefit of setting goals isn’t achieving your goal; it’s what you do and the person you become in order to achieve your goal that’s the real benefit"
- Jim Rohn
Now the "nay-sayers" will suggest goals are just a scam, a ploy to make you think about your life, and that goals especially this time of the year are just a routine process that happens every year, and eventually fizzle out after a few weeks, and to be honest that's what actually happens for those attempting to set goals.
So in a nutshell, that is why your goals suck. You approach them in a way that is bound for it to fail before it even begins.
So the question is, are goals relevant? Do they actually make a difference? Do they help?
The short answer is YES!
BUT, and this is a big BUT, only if you want it to.
You see the key to successful goals or goals that actually make a difference and will help you achieve personal success is that they are meaningful.
In summary, surface goals often refer to a goal that is reactive, whereas a meaningful goal targets the root cause of that surface goal.
When I say 'your goals suck!" I often refer to "surface goals". Way too often we set goals based on the moment, rather than the importance of what the goal is trying to accomplish.
Now its not revolutionary thinking, as there are many ways to action meaningful goals, there are tools such as "SMART" goals which are often used in the professional world, which stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timely.
The SMART approach is actually a pretty handy tool, and I have used elements of it when I set my own goals. However the problem with most goal setting tools like the SMART tool, is is they don't have an emotional driver or purposeful reason behind it. In other words they don't carry a meaning behind it that allows you to take responsibility and action. They often get you to write down all the right things you want to hear, but they rarely often dig deep to understand why it's important.
So before you go wild and set goals, always ask yourself, why is this important? or why is this going to help me or others? Understanding the why is not only important, BUT vital to purposeful and meaningful goals being achieved.
So ask yourself these three questions now;
1) Why did I set the goals I set?
2) Why are they so important that I achieve them?
3) If I achieve them what will it mean to me?
If you struggle to answers these questions, there is a high chance they will fizzle out and die a common death and be found in the growing pile of "New Year's Resolutions that Failed" section of your life.
If you need help discovering how to better uncover what your goals mean to you, drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org and I'll be more than happy to assist and provide guidance.
Till the next time!