Why you should give up on your goals!
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If your goals have no meaning to them, you should be giving up on them!
Sounds harsh I know, but the reality is if you have goals that have no meaning behind them or simply aren't working then you’re simply wasting your time and energy.
Now let me clarify what I mean by giving up on your goals. Traditionally, we set goals and they often are connected to a short to medium outcome. A traditional "five year plan" might have a three year goal, a one year goal, a quarterly goal and monthly goals connected to it.
When I mean you should give up on your goals I specifically mean these short to medium goals, the goals that contribute to the bigger goal, but may not have the same impact as a big goal!
In order to understand this point better, lets give some definition to what I consider a small-to-medium goal.
A small-to-medium goal is something you aim for to either kick start you into a better position, or help you drive towards a larger goal or long-term success.
In other words, a small-to-medium goal is a kind of stepping stone, a reachable and attainable goal that is accompanied by a reasonable time line, which could consist of daily, weekly, monthly and even yearly goals, a year is probably where I would cut off the time line of what's considered a "small-to-medium" goal.
In the business world, these small-to-medium goals are often referred to as monthly or quarterly goals, there might be a specific task or activity that is required to get you back on track, or move faster towards a larger goal, in this case it could be the end of year goal or a three year or five year plan that you are trying to execute.
To elaborate further on the business scenario, let us look at how small-to-medium goals could be perceived in the sales division or department. For example, your sales from last month could be down, and therefore the small-to-medium goal is to catch up on sales in the next month. You may identify that a customer or an industry might be down for whatever reason, and therefore create these small-to-medium goals to counter it the next month to ensure that you don't fall short on sales, now the goal or goals could be as simple as increasing customer calls per day from five to ten, or increasing promotion for a product or service every day for the next month. Now this is a simple and broad example of what I would class as a small-to-medium goal.
Another example of small-to-medium goal setting could be losing weight. Your ultimate long term goal might be to live a healthy lifestyle, but in order to achieve that, you need to get yourself going, kick-start your new healthy regime. So the small-to-medium goal in this example could be as simple as limiting treats from Monday to Friday, and only having treats on Saturday, or it could be running 3 days a week around the block for 30 minutes.
Those would all be simple and broad examples of small-to-medium goals in regards to losing weight and ultimately living a healthier lifestyle, BUT what if those small-to-medium goals don't work?
This is what this blog is about! You see, not all goals are good goals! Some have the right intention of becoming a good goal, but the reality is it could be a goal that simply doesn't suit you, or turns out to be a goal that doesn't have the initial impact you thought it would when you first committed to it.
But you know what? That's ok! In fact being aware of that is probably as important as the goal itself, and that's why you should give up on your small-to-medium goals more often than you think!
These goals that tend to have a shorter time frame must be flexible and adjusted as easily as they are thought of, and the reason being, is the small-to-medium goals aren't the "forever goals" or the "ultimate goals" and too often we get hung up on those smaller goals and create frustrations around those goals rather than learning from them and moving on from them quickly. Too often we let those goals consume us and before you know it we've become so caught up that we have forgotten what the main goal was!
If we take the losing weight example and how to utilise the concept of "giving up on your goals"it could look like this.
The small-to-medium goal as per the example earlier could be to reduce the amount of treats per day, and only have them on Saturday. You realise that two weeks into this goal that you're starting to binge eat treats on the Saturday, and basically consuming the same amount of treats had you not set that goal!
In this case, it would be a good time to review your goals and then either adjust or give up on it and try something new.
You could either, adjust the same goal to make it more achievable and more beneficial to the ultimate goal or go back to the drawing board and reset the goal.
Again, to my earlier point, being able to be aware of this and make these adjustments with the ultimate goal in mind, allows you to let go and move forward towards the ultimate goal rather than trying to execute a small-to-medium goal that may have never worked in the first place, and more importantly may not even contribute to your long term success!
Sometimes giving up on those small-to-medium goals in exchange for progress is much more beneficial than hanging on it and letting it consume your every thought and energy as to why it's not working!
To learn more on how to move on and give up on those small-to-medium goals, drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org and as always I'd love to hear your stories.
Till next time!