Blog Interview with David Meltzer: Decoding 5 Key Takeaways to Personal Success
This week marks another special moment for Momettas. In this week's blog, we get the honor and privilege to interview Best-Selling Author, International Speaker and Entrepreneur David Meltzer!
For those unaware who David Meltzer is, he is the CEO of Sports 1 Marketing and formerly served as CEO of the renowned Leigh Steinberg Sports & Entertainment agency, which was the inspiration for the movie Jerry Maguire. He is a three-time international best-selling author, a Top 100 Business Coach, the executive producer of Entrepreneur‘s #1 digital business show, Elevator Pitch, and host of the top entrepreneur podcast, The Playbook. His newest book, Game-Time Decision Making, was a #1 new release on Amazon, and David has been recognized by Variety Magazine as their Sports Humanitarian of the Year and awarded the Ellis Island Medal of Honor.
It is safe to say Meltzer has accomplished many great things in the business world and in his personal life, but as many of you know success has a "tip of the iceberg" view, in other words, we only see the good and the great, though rarely do we see the story behind the success, and so with that being said my intentions with interviewing Meltzer was to help unearth some of those stories behind the success and break them down to five key takeaways below that you can apply to your own journey.
The importance of having core values.
When I asked Meltzer "what he stood for?", he delivered an answer that resonates with me to the core. What Meltzer described in his answer to this question was the importance of having core values to help drive your daily activities.
For those unaware, core values is a must in my world! Not only does it create a sense of direction but a sense of foundation, and when Meltzer begins to describe his own "core values" I couldn't help but picture a foundation strong enough to withstand ten 7.0 magnitude earthquakes!
What I liked about core values from Meltzer's perspective was his statement outlining what it can do for you. He states, "When you have a clean connection to that which inspires you, you are empowered to share that inspiration and energy with others."
Not only is having core values important to one's understanding, but it acts in a way that reflects outward to others, and in this description from Meltzer it creates this gravitational pull or "energy with others", making your values even more important to the world. Don't believe me? Well this blog itself is living proof of that gravitational pull! Both our core-values gravitated and here we are describing it!
Success is blind!
If you study David's rise to success you will know he quickly became a key player in everything he touched. To quote him directly, he said, "I felt a little bit like King Midas. It seemed that everything I touched turned to gold."
Success in many ways can be blinding, especially if how you measure success depends on tangible things like how many flashy cars you own, or how big your house is, or how many likes you get on Instagram!
When success is driven purely on these types of metrics, it is a dangerous road to self-destruction and as Meltzer openly describes "I had let my ego get in the way, and began to self-sabotage". This not only started his downfall, but ultimately drove Meltzer to rock-bottom. Meltzer had to declare for bankruptcy as a result of following the wrong path and even lost the home he bought for his mother.
What impressed me though was Meltzer's bounce back, and his bounce-back was attributed to living out his core values, which are gratitude, empathy, accountability and effective communication, and as I mentioned in the first key takeaway, core values not only create solid foundations, but they also help create a meaningful direction, a direction worth pursuing!
Detach your happiness from outcomes.
As I mentioned in the previous key takeaway, success can blind you when you chase "things" or as Meltzer likes to describe them as "outcomes". The issue with this is you are forcing your happiness to this particular outcome, and as Meltzer describes, "... people who attach their happiness to an outcome...say they'll be happy or things will be better when "X" happens."
The reality is that outcomes are important because they give a sense of direction, for example, a goal of wanting to buy a home. But the problem, as Meltzer outlines, occurs when you create an attachment to that home without substance or core-values helping direct it, then that goal becomes too linear. In other words, there is no meaning behind the home you buy, because as Meltzer points out, what if you buy the home and then it doesn't bring happiness? Then what do you do?
So instead of creating an attachment to that outcome, you should be validating it with questions such as, "What will this home allow me to do or become if I buy it? Will buying this home teach me how to save and therefore help me develop a better financial mindset that allows me to pass onto future generations? Or will it teach me how to get a loan without any idea of how to pay it back?". When you create that substance, you naturally create a progressive mindset or a continuous improvement mindset, which are both critical to personal success!
In fact, I loved how Meltzer sums up detaching your happiness from outcomes and refocusing on the process by claiming the following "...true happiness lies in the consistent and persistent pursuit of your potential." Notice there is nothing there to suggest a "thing" or an "outcome", it’s the idea of continuously improving that's the key.
Give yourself little wins early.
The fourth key takeaway from the interview was Meltzer's idea of winning, in particular giving yourself small wins to create momentum; Meltzer described this concept as "lowering of the bar". Not lowering the bar in the sense of self-worth, expectations or potential, rather lowering the bar in regards to your initial goals and targets. Doing this allows you to gain an advantage in accelerating your personal growth for a bigger purpose.
The way I understood this was kind of like trying to run super fast! Say your ultimate goal was to run as fast as you can, in as few steps as possible. Now, unless you’re Flash Gordon, the likelihood of you getting to your top speed in a few strides is very unlikely; even the fastest man on Earth Usain Bolt requires a build-up of speed before hitting his top speed. Instead, how you are likely to achieve this goal is by progress, in particular, progress through small momentum wins and continued acceleration. When you progress through building momentum you are likely to push through and get to your bigger goal faster, and much like Bolt trying to get to his top speed, you must first get those smaller progressive wins like getting out of the blocks smoothly, getting into a good body position and getting into a good rhythm before hitting that top speed!
Much like Meltzer suggests, lowering the bar on your goals or targets in the early stages in order to win is kind of like small momentum gains when trying to reach your top speed in running, which then leads to faster gains later down the track.
Thank your haters.
That's right, "thank your haters"; this key takeaway is something I personally believe in. Not only does it disarm your haters and doubters, but it creates an opportunity to take control of the situation. In my own experiences, letting the haters or doubters get to you emotionally can absolutely ruin your day and mindset. When you "thank" your haters it enables you to take control of the situation in a positive manner.
Furthermore, Meltzer states that "There is no need to feed into their negativity with more negativity" and he's absolutely right!
Finally, I asked Meltzer what three life lessons he would give to someone wanting to follow a similar path to his, and below is a summary of his thoughts.
1. Focus on improving your skills, knowledge and desire with consistency and persistence rather than focusing your happiness to a particular outcome or pathway. In other words, your journey will not be a straight line and therefore you must be able to adapt and adjust with the skills and knowledge you are learning along the way.
2. Ask for help, as meaningful success is not done alone and the more support and advice you can get along the way, the more it will accelerate and propel your trajectory of personal growth and success.
3. Apply the "Do It Now" strategy. Every time you have a task to do, ask yourself, "Can I do it now?". If you can do it now, you save yourself twice the time it takes to accomplish the task and you will be more statistically successful. If you’re unable to do it now, create a “Do It Now Folder” and file the task away for the next opportunity when you have sufficient time to accomplish it. Not only does this make you more efficient when tackling tasks on a day-to-day basis, but prevents you from forgetting them.
So there you have it, a wonderful breakdown on David Meltzer's mindset and approach to personal success. If I may summarise the overarching message of this interview it would be this; success is not a linear line, as Meltzer rightly describes, rather it’s a journey that will take you to places you've never been to and frankly had no idea existed. However, like all journeys that get off track, the goal is to ensure that you have a strong internal navigational tool that can redirect you back towards your intended path, a tool also known as your "core-values". If you have a strong and well-calibrated "core-value" system, it can absolutely propel you back into success and create a meaningful embrace to learning and growing!
As always feel free to drop my a line any time at email@example.com, I'd love to hear how this interview with David Meltzer will help you.
To learn more about David Meltzer and his work please feel free to link up with him on his social networks below and be sure to get his latest book, "Game Time Decision Making".
Till next time,